When was the last time you were having a conversation not thinking about what you need to add to your to-do list, pick up at the grocery store for dinner or check your phone in the middle of someone talking to you? Being present is difficult but it can be very rewarding when one practices being focused on the “now.”
There are people in life that I love talking to, they make me feel like life has lit on fire and I’m charged with focus and happiness for the remainder of the day. What do these people have in common? Excellent listening skills and being attentive to our time together. I value and appreciate people who have this ability and make the effort to share their time with me. Have you ever noticed how distracting it is when someone starts texting or email back in the middle of what you are having a conversation about? Chances are they don’t realize what they are doing and the lack of respect for your time doesn’t cross their mind because it has become quite the norm in our society. Everything is urgent and must be tended to, immediately. I’m sorry to say but it’s not. The urgent moment is the NOW. You will not get that moment back with the person you are sharing time with, take advantage of loving and giving towards the conversation you chose to have.
This is my challenge to you, this week make an effort to listen full-heartedly to the person you are talking with. It could be your mother on the phone, the cashier at the grocery store, you child – whomever it is, practice listening with the intention of loving that moment and being grateful for this moment in time that you share together. Then reflect to see if you feel any differently, my hope is that you would feel a greater sense of connection and chances are you made the other person feel good about themselves because all you cared about in that moment was them.